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Have you ever had one of those days, when everything seemed to be raining down on you? The real question should be how many days have you had like that? You need a break and you need it right now! I know there have been times when someone could step in and say to the children, "Mommy just needs a break right now. Come back in half an hour and mommy will be better." Have you ever wished for a mommy clone or at the very least to be Mrs. Incredible with her super mommy powers to reach and stretch perfectly in any situation. It can be tough trying to multi-task while raising a family.

Have you ever had chaos ensue during the time of day that you are the most fatigued or frazzled and then for the icing on the cake your son asks a seemingly innocent question like, "Mom, when is dinner (lunch, breakfast, etc.), I'm starved?"  Many moms with young children experience a condition called "leg warmers" (slang for toddlers with Mommitis) from time to time. Mommy messages would be just what they need. Instead of being tempted to yell or scream you could have the "Mommy Messages" take over.

What about when your toddler decides to explore your scissor stash and cut the baby's hair, the garland from your Christmas tree, decorative tassels on your lamp, and anything else that can be cut? What is a harried, exasperated mom to do? We can only dream of an invention that might give us a time out for a moment or two to regroup or even just escape. No remote control could pause the day no matter hard we wish. Some days I wish I had a pre-programmed "Mommy Time Out" machine. I would call it "Mommy Messages." 

What are Mommy Messages and what would it do, you ask?  When you are at the split second before a melt-down, the Mommy Messages would turn on and give you a quick time out without ignoring the persons involved. A Mommy message might say, "Mommy is not here right now. She is busy and cannot come to your service. Please leave a message at the beep or play quietly until she returns." Following the message some relaxing music would begin playing to calm all who are present. Maybe a little curtain could drop down giving mommy the chance to make a break from the situation. When you are calm enough to come back to reality, no words were spoken which you wished you hadn't said, no breakdowns happen on your part, and you are ready to go about being the one in charge of the situation. It would cut down on much tension during stressful times of the day.

As much as I wish there were Mommy Messages they haven't been invented yet. In the meantime, we simply have to function during each situation and hope for the best.  The next time you're in a tense and stressful situation in your home remember that you are not alone and we all wish we could take a time out too.  We can always take that time out and find a quiet place for a quick prayer for help. Our Heavenly Father would like to help us at these times. I have learned through my own experiences that asking for help through prayer and faith help will come whether it is some relief or inspiration.

....And this is the end of these messages!

Shiloah Baker is a mother of seven children and homemaker who resides in North Carolina. She is the owner of Homemaking Cottage & Co., a website which offers homemaking related articles, books, eBooks, ideas, other homemaking related materials and a subscription service. For more information go to: or her blog at to learn how she raises seven children and runs a business at home.

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Romi Brenner is back from the front lines of working motherhood with more gems such as how not to go to a video conference, why two months' notice is required before hosting a play date, how to decimate a glowing reputation with your company in one business trip, and why you shouldn't take tired children out to a restaurant. Even if it means you have to go home and make them cat food for dinner. Or bark chips.

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While many may dismiss mom blogs as another form of gossip and talking about spit-up, the reality is that mom blogs have a great deal of influence particularly in the consumer market place. A good example of this is the controversial Motrin commercial. On a Friday in November 2008, Motrin launched an online video ad meant to sympathize with moms who carry their babies in packs or slings as opposed to pushing them in a stroller. However the video suggested that moms who carry their babies in packs do so to look like an "official mom" and that the pain of carrying a baby in a pack makes moms look "tired and crazy". Within hours of the video going online, it was one of the most popular topics on Twitter, but not because women felt like Motrin understood their pain, but because they were offended.

At the time Motrin wasn't completely connected to the blogsphere, so it didn't respond to the uproar until the following Monday when it removed the video (although you can still watch it on YouTube) and issued an apology. Peter Shankmen, a media and PR guru posted on his blog, "The problem is, Motrin happened to mess up at the expense, and in the face of, one of the most vocal, quickest-to-blog, "strongest-to-band-together-and-form-one-opinion-like-the-Borg" collectives out there -- The Mommy-Blogging community."

Although Peter's quote makes moms sound a little nutty too, it is true that moms band together. They've done it for centuries. Blogging has simply allowed moms to reach each other more easily and wield a greater influence.

With Power Comes Responsibility

Over the last few years, companies have realized and embraced the power of mothers. Before the Internet, the Motrin incident would have still occurred, just on a smaller scale. One mom would tell another mom about how offended she was by the ad during a play date. Over the course of the week, a small group of moms may have boycotted Motrin, but Motrin wouldn't have known or felt the effect. Today moms have access not just to their neighbors, but to millions of moms all over the world. Now when a company messes up and one mom complains, it's online for the world to see and to respond to.

Companies realized they could use this power for good. If mommies could complain and cause a major PR fiasco, what could they do if they liked a product? Companies started sending these mommies everything from diapers to all-expense-paid resort vacations. Moms blogged about these new gifts and as predicted, readers responded. But when it was discovered that these moms had received free items or even compensation for their blog posts, the readers felt betrayed and responded with anger. In effect, readers did to mommy blogs what mommy blogs did to Motrin.

When you embark on a career as a mom blogger, your readers will develop a relationship with you. You must respect that relationship by working to provide the best content and referrals, and be honest about any freebies or monetary reimbursement you receive through reviews or recommendations you make on your blog. Not only is it required by the FTC, but is necessary to maintain the integrity of the relationship with your readers.

Leslie Truex is the author of The Work-At-Home Success Bible and owner of Mommy Blogging Success, a free resources with tips and advice on turning your rants, raves and reviews into revenue through blogging. Visit Mommy Blogging Success to learn more.

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